It happens so often. You meet someone, you have great conversation and you connect completely. They know you so well. It's like you were made for each other. They are so beautiful and nice. Before the night is out, you find yourself in an intimate moment with this person. You kiss, you touch and then you have sex. You exchange after-sex pleasantries and then go on your way. The next day you think about what happened the day before, but you aren't filled with feelings of love or joy. You are filled with questions. Did you do the right thing? Will you see this person again? You ask yourself what you were thinking? Did the person have a disease? Having sex on the first date is something many people decide to do and even more people regret. So what are some reasons that having sex on the first date is a bad idea?

• By Allowing Yourself To Be In An Intimate Setting With A Person You Just Met, You Place Yourself At Risk Of Being Hurt Physically
  People never think about getting hurt by someone they just met, but when you place yourself in a very intimate setting with someone you don't know, you run the risk of all kinds of things happening to you. One pill in a drink and you can often be coerced into things you might never normally do. You don't know the person you are with so you can't tell what will or won't happen. Men and women have been assaulted all because they have placed themselves in situations with people they just didn't know on a first date.
  


• By Allowing Yourself To Be In An Intimate Setting With A Person You Just Met, You Place Yourself At Risk Of Being Robbed
  Most men and women never think about being robbed this way, yet so many are everyday. You meet someone and go to a hotel. When you wake up, the person is gone and so is your money and credit cards. It happens everyday. People are often so ashamed that they don't report it to the police. In fact, in many cases they knew so little about the person they were with that they couldn't tell the police much anyway. This could happen to anyone, including you. 


• Even Though You Have Already Had Sex, Rarely Does A Serious Relationship Develop With The Other Person
  You may have been looking at your date with your mate-potential-meter. When you have sex on the first date, that goes right out the window. Rarely does a first night sex-fest end in happily ever after. There is a stigma attached to a people who have sex on the first date. Even the person you had sex with classifies you in a certain way. Women are considered easy and men are considered to be whores. Again, the person you had sex with likely doesn't see themselves this way. They do, however, see YOU this way. If you are trying to create a lasting relationship, skip the first date sex. If the person is a good person, they will be worth the wait. 


• You Aren't A Bad Person, Yet Every Part Of You Feels Bad
  The problem with doing things that are against our core values is that we feel bad about it deep inside even if we don't want to feel bad. You have to be true to yourself when it comes to doing what you want, however, you need to be honest with yourself about what you feel about what you have done. Know that you aren't a bad person. However, you have made a very questionable choice. It's up to you to not make that choice again.


• You Don't Know If The Person You Are Having Sex With Has An STD
  This is a serious issue. A lot of people think that if a condom is used they are protected. Wrong! There are many diseases that a condom won't protect you from. Genital warts, herpes, scabies and crabs are all STDs that you can get even with a condom. Genital warts and herpes cannot be cured. Is this really what you want for yourself? Is it worth it?

Let's be clear about something. If you just want to have sex with someone, then do what you want. If you are looking for a serious relationship or someone to date seriously, know that you will never find it by having sex with someone on the first date. Not only do you devalue yourself in the eyes of the person you are dating, you also expose yourself to things you may not be able to get rid of. It's not safe, but it is your choice. Ladies, it may sound completely sexist, but men will have a great night of sex with you and then never call you again because they think of you as too easy. They think if you are giving it up so easy to them, you probably do that regularly or would do it again. There is also the chase factor. Most men love a challenge deep down on the inside. They want to feel like they earned something. Like they won the prize. When you give it up so easy, you take away the chase factor. They can't hunt you like they wanted to. Instead, they get some easy sex and the opportunity to go find their challenge elsewhere. Men will almost never take you seriously if they get to have sex with you the first time you go out on a date. Men, you aren't exempt from consequence. When you have sex with a woman on the first date, women look at you as a whore. You are someone not to be trusted.

Written By Kila Morton

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