Breaking up with someone can be a real hard thing to do, especially if you are a person that likes to avoid conflict. Some people who like to avoid conflict will even stay in bad relationships because they don't want to be seen as the bad person during a breakup. For people like this, cowardly break ups seem like a welcome alternative to a nasty confrontational break up. The only problem is that a cowardly break up is....well...cowardly, for lack of a better word. If you plan to end the relationship in any of the following ways, just know that you are being a coward.

• Cowardly Breakup Dating Tip 1 - Over The Phone
  Breaking up over the phone may give you an easy way out. You don't have to see the person crying. You can disconnect if the conversation gets heated. However, unless the person is violent in some way, you are being a coward. If you didn't start a relationship with them over the phone, don't decide to end it with them over the phone. Go to them in person and talk about the reasons why you are leaving. Breaking up with someone over the phone leaves that person feeling like they don't matter to you. They may not matter to you, but it's still bad form on your part.

• Cowardly Breakup Dating Tip 2 - Text Message
  Text messages should never be used to end a relationship unless you are a complete and total jerk. If you can't be man or woman enough to look the person in the eye and say that you don't want to be with them anymore and instead decide to rely on text messages to end the relationship, you are a coward.

• Cowardly Breakup Dating Tip 3 - Voicemail Message
  Again, taking the time to tell the person face to face is best. Leaving a voicemail message that says it's over is cowardly.

• Cowardly Breakup Dating Tip 4 - Email Message
  Email is just as bad as a text message. This is a very cowardly way to end the relationship and only invites more contact with the person. Just think about it. Would you just accept an email that says it's over? You would have questions and you would want answers. The person you are dating is no different. Don't take the cowards way out and breakup with someone via email.

• Cowardly Breakup Dating Tip 5 - Via A Mailed Letter
  If you didn't get into a relationship with the person using a letter, don't try to get out of a relationship using a cowardly letter.

• Cowardly Breakup Dating Tip 6 - By Telling One Of Their Friends
  For the majority of people, a break up is a big deal. Telling other people about your desire to end the relationship so that they can relay that message to the person you were involved with is cowardly. If their friends were not the ones you talked to when you wanted to get into the relationship, don't let them be who you turn to when you want to end it. Doing this is cowardly.

• Cowardly Breakup Dating Tip 7 - By Telling A Member Of Their Family
  Why, oh why do people want to involve someone else's family in a break up? Doing this makes you look like a jerk and it's just plain cowardly. If you ever cared about the person you were with, don't involve their family. It is embarassing and they may not want their family to know. If you didn't ask the family to commmunicate with your soon to be ex to get into the relationship, don't take the cowards way out and ask them to help you end it.

• Cowardly Breakup Dating Tip 8 - By Not Telling Them You Want To Break Up And Instead Just Avoiding Their Calls

  Many people try to avoid confrontation by just ignoring the person they are seeing and hoping the person will just go away. This is not only cowardly, it is irresponsible and disrespectful. Why would you want to have a person wondering why you are ignoring them instead of just being honest with them and telling them you don't want to be with them anymore? Doing this will likely make the person angry because it doesn't offer them any closure. If you have a heart, invest 10 minutes of your time in telling the person you are seeing that you don't want to be with them anymore. Don't be a coward and let them end up hating you because you ignore them. 

• Cowardly Breakup Dating Tip 9 - Leaving Them A Note On A Car, Door Or At Someplace You Know They Will Be
  Leaving notes is for kids. If you are mature, act like it. Don't leave notes for the person to find. If you didn't use a note to get into the relationship, don't try to use a note to get out of it. Just be honest and upfront about your desire to leave and then move on.         

If you are going to break up with someone, be strong and face the situation head on. Meet with them face to face and tell them that you are breaking up with them. If you were woman or man enough to get into the relationship, be woman or man enough to end it with dignity. You may not want to see the person's reaction to what you have to say, but if you have any kind of decency at all you will face them and not be a coward when it's time to say "It's over!"

Written By Kila Morton

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