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5 Ways To Chase A Guy Away In 10 Seconds Or Less |
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Thursday, 13 March 2008 |
 Women invest a lot of time in figuring out what makes guys tick, how to find guys and how to hold on to guys. The truth is that men really aren't that complicated. Sorry guys, but you really aren't. Men, for the most part, follow set patterns that are pretty obvious and predictable. You may come across the exceptional few that don't fit the mold, but, even those guys can easily be figured out given a little analysis and a little time. So you may be asking yourself, if what I'm saying is true, how come you keep losing all of the men you find? The answer may have less to do with them and more to do with you. Have you been intentionally chasing the guys you date away? Before you decide to leave this site with an attitude, take a few moments and see if you are doing one of the 5 items on the list of surefire ways to send a guy running and screaming for the hills. If you have been doing the things listed below, take a moment and decide to make a conscious effort to change. This list is by no means exhaustive, but if these items are things you are doing, then you may just want to change your game.
- Chase A Guy Away: Dating Tip 1 - Tell The Guy That You Love Him Somewhere Between Dates 1 And 3
Most guys have a problem dealing with complex emotions too soon. They start feeling rushed and pressured. There are some that will say they love you right back impulsively, but the majority of guys take this as a sign that you are becoming too clingy too fast. Take your time, get to know the person and instead of saying "I love you" quickly, tell them that you are really enjoying getting to know them. This is nonthreatening, yet communicates your point.
- Chase A Guy Away: Dating Tip 2 - Introduce Him To Your Family On the First Date
If you are a teenager, then doing this is great. If you are all grown up, this is not so great. Guys hate to feel like they are being pushed into something. If they are seriously looking for a relationship first, they want to get to know you before they start meeting members of your family. When you do this, it seems like you are trying to force them into something - even if you aren't. Save the family meeting for after you really get to know the guy. Your family is precious. Meeting them is a special treat that should be reserved for important people.
- Chase A Guy Away: Dating Tip 3 - Calling Him Incessantly After Your First Date
Why oh why do people do this? Stop it! If you call a person once and leave them a message and then you call again and leave them a message - that's enough! Wait for him to call you. Calling incessantly is not only annoying, it makes you look incredibly desperate and slightly crazy. Think about it. You must have nothing to do if all you are doing is spending your time calling him minute after minute. Don't you think he is thinking about that? It doesn't make him feel appreciated, it makes him feel smothered. If you have a compulsive need to call him, call your family members or someone else instead. Give him a chance to call you.
- Chase A Guy Away: Dating Tip 4 - Showing Up At His Home Unannounced & Without An Invitation
Can you say stalker? Most men hate to feel like you are invading their space. Showing up at a person's home without calling is not only rude, it is an invasion. If you really like this person, and you are trying to see if they are possibly living with someone or have something inappropriate going on at their home, drive by without them noticing you or, better yet, ask the if you can come over. Often, once you get the milk, you don't need to see the cow to confirm that it exists. In this case, if the guy you are dating tells you that you can't come over (this is the milk in my analogy), then you don't need to come over to figure out that there is something going on (this would be the cow in my analogy). If you can never come over, you have your answer. Don't just show up announced.
- Chase A Guy Away: Dating Tip 5 - Constantly Criticizing Him
You may think that you are constructively criticizing him, but he is looking at it like you are a pain the you-know-what. Don't constantly criticize the guy you are dating unless you want to end up alone. Being overly vocal in your criticism makes a guy feel like he isn't a man. It diminishes him internally. That's not what you want is it? If you have points that you think he needs to change, reserve a time with him and talk about those things at that time. Constantly bringing up different issues at different times when you are together is annoying and condescending - even if you are correct. There is one thing that you have to learn in a relationship - being correct doesn't make you right and being incorrect doesn't make you wrong. That may seem like a crazy statement. Here is what it means. You may be constantly correct about different things that you bring up that he should change or correct, however, your approach can be completely wrong. He could be constantly incorrect in what he is doing, however, that doesn't mean it's not right for him. What ends up happening in these instances is that he starts tuning you out. Then when you have something important to say, he isn't even listening anymore. That's not what you want, so lay off the constant criticisms. No one is perfect - not even you.
These are just a few of the items that will chase a guy away. If you like someone, and they like, you let the relationship progress at a normal pace. Don't try to rush or push someone into something. People will often allow you to do this and then rebel against you later on. Give yourself time to get to know the guy you are dating. Don't try to manipulate the situation into what you want it to be. You want the person you are dating to run to you, not away from you. Take your time and your patience and understanding will pay off.
Written By Kila Morton
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