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Make Yourself Dateable: Letting Go Of Bitterness |
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Thursday, 27 March 2008 |
Bitterness is a very hard emotion to keep in your heart. It permeates every part of your being and can turn a once happy person into a miserable and hateful individual. Bitterness is really an inability to let go of a situation. Bitterness can take over your life and affect every dating relationship, every business relationship and every familial relationship you may have because rarely can a bitter person stop themselves from displaying their unhappiness with life. If this sounds like you, then you have to give up your bitterness before it consumes you. If it has already wreaked havoc on your life, you need to make the choice to turn things around. Here are a few ways to do that.
Dating Tip: Getting Over Bitterness Step 1
The first step to getting over bitterness is to identify what you are bitter about. Sometimes people become so consumed with bitterness that they don't even remember what initially caused the bitterness. Sit down and take some time to think about the reason or reasons that you are currently bitter.
Dating Tip: Getting Over Bitterness Step 2
After you work through why you became bitter, you have to come to terms with the reality about the issue. People who are bitter about things typically have a problem forgiving and a problem letting things go. You have to come to the point where you accept that the situation that initially caused you to become bitter may never be resolved in a manner that's satisfactorily for you. Coming to this understanding is the first step in allowing yourself to let it go. There may be a lot of factors in your life that you may feel warrant being bitter. The truth is that there is nothing worth destroying your heart and mind. You have to just stop and make a choice between being happy or being bitter. There is not room in your heart for both. Which one provides you with peace? Which one provides you with comfort? Which one is going to allow you to live your best life? The choice is yours.
Dating Tip: Getting Over Bitterness Step 3
After you come to terms with the issue and accept that you have to let it go, your next step is to actually let it go. Whenever you mind starts to dwell on the issue, change your thoughts. Whenever you start feeling overwhelmed and miserable, change your thoughts to something pleasant. Remember, you are in control of your mind. Years of bitterness may have stripped away your ability to think clearly all the time, but, you still have the power.
Coming to terms with the reasons for your bitterness can allow you to live a far happier life than you have ever known. Peace, love and joy are waiting for you. If you are in a dating relationship, it's essential that you involve your dating partner in your quest to conquer your bitterness. It's a step by step process, but, investing in you is worth it. Conquer your bitterness to make the most of your life. When you do, you will also make the most of your love.
Written By Kila Morton
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