Arguing with someone you are dating is never fun. Even though we don't want to argue with people we care about, arguments are nonetheless a part of most relationships. The key to a good relationship is not pledging to never argue with each other. Instead, the key is to know how to argue and how to end an argument gracefully without ripping your relationship apart. There are zones you shouldn't go into and things that should never come out of your mouth if you are concerned about preserving your relationship. So how can you make it through an argument gracefully without destroying your relationship? Here are 7 ways to do it.

• Dating Tip 1 - Never Put The Relationship In Jeopardy Over An Argument Unless You Really Want It To Be Over
  This means that things like "this relationship is over" and "I don't want to be with you anymore" should never come out of your mouth unless you really mean it. People like to feel secure. When you constantly say things that upset that security, you leave your partner on edge. When a person feels on edge, they can never be comfortable in a relationship with you. You have to make a pledge to not cause the security of the relationship to come into question unless you want it to be over. This allows you both to feel secure in the fact that this argument is something that you will overcome because you aren't trying to destroy the relationship.


• Dating Tip 2 - During A Time When You Are Both Calm, Make The Decision That You Will Not Call Each Other Names
  For some reason, a lot of people get so angry that they think that calling the person they are with out of their names is acceptable. It isn't. If you respect the person you are with, you need to make sure that you aren't disrespecting them just because you are upset. Being mad is not an excuse for calling someone out of their name. If you care about the person you are with, just don't do it.


• Dating Tip 3 - Keep Your Arguments Private
  This means two things. First, your arguments should be conducted in private. There is no reason for the whole world to know what is going on in your relationship. There is really no reason for the whole world to know what is going on in your arguments. Go to a private place and discuss what you need to discuss, but, don't argue in public. Second, what you argue about should be private. Don't talk with the world about the things you argue about. Many people make the mistake of spreading their relationship business to the world. What you talk about, argue about and discuss with your mate is your business. Keep it that way.


• Dating Tip 4 - Never Bring Up Other People, Like An Ex, In Your Argument
  You may think that you are hurting your current partner when you do this, the truth is that you are embarrassing yourself. If the relationship with your ex was so great, you would still be there. Obviously, unless there was a death, there was something that stopped you from being together. Don't act like your past relationship was so good unless you want to go back to that person. If you do, then stop arguing with the one you are with, go back to your ex and leave the person you are dating alone.


• Dating Tip 5 - Don't Try To Demean The Person You Are Dating During The Argument
  There are some people that have to win at all cost - including during the course of arguments with people they are dating. If you are like this or you are dating someone like this, a simple argument can turn into an all out slug fest. Don't let this happen. Recognize that you still care about this person and this person needs your love and understanding. Don't try to break them down to "win". The truth is that doing this only helps you lose.


• Dating Tip 6 - Don't Involve Family Members Into Your Arguments
  A lot of people call their family whenever they argue with the person they are dating. This is a mistake and here is why. Rarely are our little arguments earth shattering, yet, when we talk to our family members and constantly complain, we create an image in their minds. They start looking at our relationship as rocky and they start forming opinions about what we should do about the relationship. This is a natural response. If you heard a bunch of negative things about the person one of your family members is dating, wouldn't you think that the relationship should end? Of course you would. This is why you shouldn't involve your family members unless it is something major. If you and the person you are dating work through the argument, your family is still going to base their opinion on what you told them about your argument. Rarely do we communicate about the good times with the same passion as we do the bad times. Keep your family out of your relationship unless you want them to hate the person you are dating.


• Dating Tip 7 - Allow The Person You Are Dating To Have Their Say - It Is Very Hard To Argue When One Person Refuses To Argue
  A lot of times you may be tempted to try to talk over the person you are dating when you are in the middle of an argument or you may comment and cut them off when they are talking. Don't do this. It only fuels a person's anger. Instead of trying to talk over them and battle them, make a choice not to do it. Make a choice to do something else. Make a choice to decide to do something else. It may be hard because our desire is to have the last word, but, if you are committed to ending arguing gracefully, you must make a choice to do something other than what you have been doing.

Graceful arguments require a level of consideration between the both of you. If the person you are dating is not willing to follow these guidelines, it's OK. You follow them. It is extremely hard to argue with someone that exercises control over themselves during an argument. Be the one that stays in control. Dating relationships require effort, but, little arguments don't have to spell disaster for your relationship every time you have them.

Written By Kila Morton

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